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According to the Child Welfare Information Gateway, adopted children feel a sense of grief, rejection and abandonment at some point in their lives when they learn that they were adopted. Adopted people, while children, and even as adults, often wonder why they were placed into adoption and whether something was wrong with them when they were born. Feelings of grief at not knowing one’s own parents can be coupled with guilt because it is not socially acceptable for adopted children to grieve for their birth parents, particularly when their adopted family is a happy one.
They Mourn Their Birth Culture
Along with feelings of grief and guilt, the Child Information Gateway reports that adopted children can react to the loss of their birth parents with feelings of depression, anger, anxiety, numbness or fear. Adopted children may also grieve for the loss of their brothers and sisters and for their other birth-family members, as well as their culture such as in the case of transracial adoption. Adopted children often mourn that they are not allowed to speak their mother tongue when they are adopted by parents of another cultural and linguistic heritage.”